If you have a dad, this book is for you.


This book is a memoir that is also about the work of storying yourself. It’s pegged to fatherhood, but it’s not just about men. It’s about coming to terms with the influences that formed you and the influence you have on the people you love.
I write about my dad, a mess of a man who messed up his family. I write about the father figures I pursued, the fatherly God my mom believed in, and the father I’ve been trying to become. I make fun of myself a lot, because storying myself helped me get comfortable with all my downsides.
The Father You Get is my third book. For more and a bio, click below.

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